7 things to NOT do during a first date

things to avoid on first date

Over the years I have been on many a first date, most of them terrible, some OK and the occasional one was very good. From my experiences, (and listening to friends share their stories) I learnt what the ingredients were to improve your chances of having a successful first date (IF you both were interested in each other).

I’ve shared 7 key things that I think you should not do during a first date if you want to try and score a second date:

Talk about your ex  – it might seem tempting, especially if you are fresh out of a relationship to offload your worries and rants onto your new date, but in reality all it will do is ring alarm bells that you aren’t ready to move on yet.

Ask them when they want to get married/have kids – again, you may end up asking completely innocently as part of your conversation, but there is a high chance you may send your date running for the hills thinking that you want to lock them down already.

Talk about other dates you’ve been on recently – I have done this on dates where I had no desire to see the person again, but if you’re trying to get someone to like you, you won’t be doing yourself any favours by sharing details of how many other men are trying to capture your attention at the same time.

Make future plans with them – this is one is more for you to judge. If you start talking about crazy golf and he suggests that you guys should go sometime then great, but don’t go inviting him to your cousins wedding next summer and hoping that he will say yes.

Try to fill the silences with awkward questions/topics – this can be difficult, especially when you’ve just met someone and the conversation may not be flowing as easily as you might have hoped. But an awkward silence is better than a random conversation. A good friend of mine had a guy fill an awkward silence on their date by choosing to tell her that if he could make any wish when blowing out his birthday candles it would be to turn into a dog. I’ll leave you to guess whether she saw him again.

Dress to the nines – Most first dates tend to take place in bars, so it can be tempting to dress up. I’m not saying you shouldn’t make any effort, but wearing 6 inch heels, fake lashes and your shortest dress may not give the best first impression to a new date.

Catfish them – By this I mean turn up to your date looking totally different to your pictures. I’ve had this happen to me before and it’s incredibly frustrating and a waste of both of your time. They will eventually realise when they meet you that you don’t look how you promoted yourself online and either be annoyed at being deceived and lose interest (as I would normally react) or just not be attracted to you at all.

To my ever lovely readers, do you agree? Have I missed any out?

Giulia x



  1. Coyote from Orion
    April 19, 2018 / 8:26 pm

    Had the most hideous catfish once. Was made even worse when she offered to do something ‘for me’ while I drove even though we didn’t hit it off. I felt violated by even being asked.
    I gained a deeper understanding for Kurtz in Apocalypse Now. So much easier and more rewarding looking after animals. Not difficult to facilitate or provide the means for a cat or dog to live a very long and happy life.

  2. April 19, 2018 / 9:18 pm

    I loved all of these and wouldn’t have thought of some of them so thanks for posting this. I’m not sure about the short skirt/dress part though. I’ve been told I have nice long legs. I know I do and like to show them off as I have smallish breasts and like to draw attention to my best feature so I always wear a short dress or skirt on a date, unless we’re going hiking or something like that. Some other things I’ve thought of not to do on first date include:
    * getting drunk
    * going back to his place if this is not only a first date but also he’s someone I just met and don’t know well. He might be dangerous once we’re alone
    * telling him too much about me on first date, like for instance that I’m a pagan or that I’m bisexual

    There’s probably lots more. First dates are like a mine field of possible errors.

  3. David Coomber Effect Studio
    October 11, 2018 / 8:08 pm

    You forgot talking endlessly about yourself until your date is chewing the tablecloth

    • justanothersinglegirlinlondon
      January 20, 2019 / 5:29 pm

      Hahaha that is all a very big turn off!!

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