Over the years I have been on many a first date, most of them terrible, some OK and the occasional one was very good. From my experiences, (and listening to friends share their stories) I learnt what the ingredients were to improve your chances of having a successful first date (IF you both were interested in each other).
I’ve shared 7 key things that I think you should not do during a first date if you want to try and score a second date:
Talk about your ex – it might seem tempting, especially if you are fresh out of a relationship to offload your worries and rants onto your new date, but in reality all it will do is ring alarm bells that you aren’t ready to move on yet.
Ask them when they want to get married/have kids – again, you may end up asking completely innocently as part of your conversation, but there is a high chance you may send your date running for the hills thinking that you want to lock them down already.
Talk about other dates you’ve been on recently – I have done this on dates where I had no desire to see the person again, but if you’re trying to get someone to like you, you won’t be doing yourself any favours by sharing details of how many other men are trying to capture your attention at the same time.
Make future plans with them – this is one is more for you to judge. If you start talking about crazy golf and he suggests that you guys should go sometime then great, but don’t go inviting him to your cousins wedding next summer and hoping that he will say yes.
Try to fill the silences with awkward questions/topics – this can be difficult, especially when you’ve just met someone and the conversation may not be flowing as easily as you might have hoped. But an awkward silence is better than a random conversation. A good friend of mine had a guy fill an awkward silence on their date by choosing to tell her that if he could make any wish when blowing out his birthday candles it would be to turn into a dog. I’ll leave you to guess whether she saw him again.
Dress to the nines – Most first dates tend to take place in bars, so it can be tempting to dress up. I’m not saying you shouldn’t make any effort, but wearing 6 inch heels, fake lashes and your shortest dress may not give the best first impression to a new date.
Catfish them – By this I mean turn up to your date looking totally different to your pictures. I’ve had this happen to me before and it’s incredibly frustrating and a waste of both of your time. They will eventually realise when they meet you that you don’t look how you promoted yourself online and either be annoyed at being deceived and lose interest (as I would normally react) or just not be attracted to you at all.
To my ever lovely readers, do you agree? Have I missed any out?